It’s weird, but not NEARLY as weird as your obsession with age-gap relationships.
How many accounts are you going to get banned on this question?
Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
It has zero impact on my life therefore I don’t care.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it.
It’s also almost universally something that the people involved cannot take outside advice on. It seems to be one of those things that must be experienced personally.
Thats really well put
I think it’s kinda weird and likely indicates that one or both have some unresolved parental issues. I even may silently judge, but it’s none of my business otherwise.
I’d even remove the “may” from the statement and say that I will silently judge but its none of my business so within a minute I’ll have forgotten that they exist.
I say may, only because there are edge cases and exceptions to the rule. Few and far between I’ll grant you.
Still, unresolved parental issues need a partner too, so no skin off my nose…
It’s like having an allergy to 8+ classes of medication in the chart including “cardiac arrest” for Bendryl. Get the DSM-V.
I’m going to go with bad, it makes me feel bad
My age gap is only 9 years but I was 22 at the time and I turn 40 this year and looking back I’m thinking “where were all the adults who were supposed to give me good advice??” Instead of encouraging me into a wildly imbalanced relationship which has been incredibly damaging to me
Mostly that it’s none of my business. Don’t see how that big of a gap really works out long term but if they’re happy I’m happy. 25 is old enough to have a good enough idea of how things work to not get taken advantage of (usually).
i wouldn’t find anything common with a 25 year old myself. i think it would be less of an issue if the younger was 30+. obviously the older you are the wider the acceptable gap. once both parties are 35+ i think the gap doesn’t matter at all.
It might be fine for the moment but if the relationship stays long term it will be hard when one partner starts to like age and degrade a lot quicker than the other. In the end one might be ill and on the way to death while the other one has quite a bit of time ahead of them. I think that can strain a relationship in the long run
With my hands.
there’s a rule of thumb: absolute MINIMUM age is half your age + 7. which would make the minimum 30
Are you seeking validation, or condemnation?
People in different stages of life like that generally don’t have a ton to relate on. Can it work? Sure. Does it usually work long term? Nah
The older one of them is the less either need to worry about long term
Whatever. They’re both old enough to know better.
Hey man I’m not here to yuck anyone’s yum, idgaf, enjoy each other
It’s not so much “Yucking someones yum” so much as “I think such a large age gap is going to be a big strain on this relationship. But if you wanna… fine.” Like, one of these people was born around when 9-11 occurred and the other was born around the time when Pac-Man was the new hot game in arcades and these “CD” things were starting to catch on for music storage. That’s quite a generational gap.
However, they’re both old enough to both know the what they’re doing… and maybe it will all work out. Thus my “They’re both old enough to know better” comment. Maybe they’re star crossed lovers and it will all work out… but in the end, it’s a case of “Not my circus, not my monkeys”.
apologies for pedantry, but if they’re star-crossed it won’t work out by definition
TIL that I’ve been using “star crossed lovers” wrong my entire life. I thought it meant fated lovers.
