lol. don’t do drugs. sex does not exist.
I see you also recieved the universal basic education.
that was parents. I was lucky enough that the public education system went through the parts and disease and pregnancy and birth control and disease prevention. Kinda funny though as they never really get into the sex act. Even the catholic junior high I went to covered the parts and how babies were made but did not talk about birth control except none are guaranteed so celibacy is the only sure way to not get pregnant/impregnate or get disease. They also seperated girls and boys for the class.
I refer to your original statement as the universal basic education that patents give when they’re too awkward to talk about sex. Your original statement covered the entirety of what I was told. My school said nothing of sex ed. My biology teacher asked us to read the chapter on reproduction ourselves because she wasn’t going to cover it but it would be on the finals. So I’m basically self taught for all matters involving sex. The rule was that no one is to speak of sex. Even drugs weren’t talked about at all. It was just presumed that drugs will be avoided. Smoking was discouraged strongly enough that I think it was presumed that the same message applied to any substance misuse.
“Everybody who does marihuana ends up doing hard drugs!” - my mother, social worker.
Yeah, sex doesn’t exist.
Holy shit we can edit titles here. I got to fix a typo; what a dream. Fuck Reddit.
Haha welcome to the fediverse, glad you’re enjoying it.
Lemmy legitimately does just have an incrementally better design, besides just being free and non-enshittifiable.
(Except “under the hood”, where it’s a bit of a mess)
what’s wrong under the hood?
I don’t code so idk the deep dive but from what I’ve seen from the people who run my instance, there’s a lot of features missing and sometimes updates break things.
Last I checked, Piefed, despite being written in a scripting language, manages to be much faster and lighter.
I can’t comment too much on database best practices, but apparently the way Lemmy uses them is borderline insane. It does just visually look pretty speghetti-code-ish, in those sections. Hopefully, one day somebody will come along and fix that.
The rest seems fine.
My dad told me we were going to talk about sex. I asked him what he wanted to know. That was the end of the conversation.
You did a dad joke on your dad. Impressive
He sure showed that mother fucker.
Open and honest. If you were old enough to ask a question you were old enough for a relatively complete answer. No judgement or lecture. Just the truth.
I do the same for my kids.
The goated answer.
When I was about 15, my grandma told me “If you don’t want her to be a mommy, always remember to wrap your salami.”
That was about it, and yes, it was as strange as it sounds.
My Mom once said to me, “Be good, but if you can’t be good, be careful.”
I built a shed with my dad when I was like 14 and he went “well your mother wanted me to talk to you…”
We had an awkward conversation but it was very short and he was just like “some guys have a lot of sex. Some guys don’t. That’s ok. It feels really good. Use protection”
It wasn’t until I fucked up with some drugs as an older teenager he was like hey cool it with that nonsense.
He’s a good guy haha.
Sex and drugs are fine but don’t neglect your rock and roll.
My parents said that they would let me drink under their supervision once I turned 16. I didn’t take them up on the offer because i wasn’t interested. Any time my Mom lit a cigarette I would start talking about how bad it was for her. So they never felt a need to talk to me about other drugs. Eventually when I waa 20 I let a girl talk me into drinking with her at her place when her parents were out of town, and she’s my wife now.
For sex, my parents were like “you talked about that stuff in school right? You know to use protection?” And I was like, “yeah I’m good”.
I was a responsible youth, the one in the friend group always thinking about the consequences and long-term effects of actions. My parents knew they didn’t have to worry about me.
My mom was pretty open about trying weed in college. She told me she would rather me smoke weed than cigarettes, which she did not appreciate me reminding her of when she caught me smoking weed.
Sex wasn’t a topic we really discussed, but it wasn’t something taboo. When I was 11 she got me a book on puberty and told me to ask her if I had any questions. I didn’t need to because she did her research and got a good book.
Although she did get me a Playboy subscription when I was 16. I always forget about that. My dad had it cancelled. He also tried to give me “the talk” when I was 23.
23? Ouch.
The parents were probably ready for grandkids.
My dad took me for a drive when I was 15. Awkwardly asked if I knew about women. I lied and said yes. He was visibly relieved. That was the end of it.
My wife and I made sure our kids had multiple sex talks, quizzed them about scenarios (especially involving STDs and consent), and gave them starter 3-packs of condoms.
We’re not leaving things to chance. We also factored the future therapy bills into the equation.
My mother: My best friend Ruthy was the sort of person who thought a best friend was someone who gives you their last tab of speed during exams. My best friend in highschool, hearing this: So you had speed in highschool? My mother: oh ugh um ahh well.
My mother also advised us that if we thought a bar was watering down drinks we should order black russians because vodka is more alcoholic but kahlua is more expensive. Also never buy white rum because you might as be drinking vodka - this was meant as an insult to both vodka and white rum.
My parents side stepped having this conversation by letting their first child serve as a negative example for the rest of us
Mom went to Woodstock… The first one… so being exposed to sexual behavior and being around drugs were a part of my childhood environment. The 1970’s were WAY more free-swinging than it is now. Because it was in my environment, it became all rather ho-hum.
When it’s around all the time - it loses the appeal of being “forbidden fruit.”
My mom worked in a hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst that comes from drugs. Naturally she was very anti-drug
What conversation? You guys had conversations?
Same. Luckily common sense and open friends were enough for me to be informed.
