For me it’s time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don’t understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That’s it. I don’t understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn’t give you anything.
My wife will hear a song and go “Oh neat, it’s in 5/8.” And I’m like “How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?”
LOL I was checking the comments for exactly this.
My wife and I have ADHD and have the same issue. Emotional regulation is impaired in many with ADHD, so we tend to run emotionally “hotter” than most. We may get more upset about something than an NT person might, hence why we come across as very upset, but we may not see it as particularly intense because that’s a normal reaction in our experience.
Not necessarily what might be causing it for you, but definitely what does it for me and many others I’ve known. DBT helped a lot.
I’d never thought about it that way but that would make a lot of sense, thank you.