Well… I AM the next of kin. Its not like I hate the man, he was just a pretty shitty dad. He has friends and family who would want a funeral to attend. I can legally speaking say “Not my problem” and the government will give him a free cremation and return the ashes to me or my sister but thats it.
Me getting him to prepay it wasnt just a smart investment for me, it also meant that he couldnt kick the bucket at the worst possible time and put me in a position where I had to chose between looking after the best interests of my family and keeping the mortgage paid OR giving him a decent send off. Because honestly, in that spot he would lose.
Selfishly I do hope he doesnt manage to spend it all, but knowing its paid is just something I know I dont need to worry about.b
Ah fair enough. Yea I love my mom and she wants to be buried in her home country but life is for the living. I’m planning on cremating her and splitting the ashes among my siblings. Not gonna waste money on a service or anything, I know she wouldn’t want that at least. If my extended family wants a service they can pay for it themselves I won’t be attending.
Well… I AM the next of kin. Its not like I hate the man, he was just a pretty shitty dad. He has friends and family who would want a funeral to attend. I can legally speaking say “Not my problem” and the government will give him a free cremation and return the ashes to me or my sister but thats it.
Me getting him to prepay it wasnt just a smart investment for me, it also meant that he couldnt kick the bucket at the worst possible time and put me in a position where I had to chose between looking after the best interests of my family and keeping the mortgage paid OR giving him a decent send off. Because honestly, in that spot he would lose.
Selfishly I do hope he doesnt manage to spend it all, but knowing its paid is just something I know I dont need to worry about.b
Ah fair enough. Yea I love my mom and she wants to be buried in her home country but life is for the living. I’m planning on cremating her and splitting the ashes among my siblings. Not gonna waste money on a service or anything, I know she wouldn’t want that at least. If my extended family wants a service they can pay for it themselves I won’t be attending.