Sidebar defaults are bad. There’s no home directory. How do you get to your home directory? Cmd+shift+H, but can you get there without that special shortcut? You can’t see the file system’s structure in Finder. The GUI doesn’t have a way to go “up” in the directory structure. I don’t think you can do it in the GUI alone.

It won’t let you see stuff in like \tmp\ without a fight, too. I don’t know how to open stuff in places like that without cd’ing to the location in the terminal, and doing open . in the desired directory.

The list view is the least bad, but it gets unwieldy if your directories are deeply nested. It’s also bad if you started in the middle of the tree and want to go up. Gallery and column view are really bad for anything non trivial.

I often want to see the entire file path, and it really doesn’t want to cooperate. If I do find the file I’m looking for, and want the full path, it doesn’t want to give it. I don’t even know if there is a way to get it. Other than like cmd+clicking -> “new iterm2 tab here” -> pwd, which is not really that helpful of Finder.

Contrast with windows’ default explorer. It’s not perfect and I think windows11 made it worse, but still. Open it up, there’s the “my pc”, click through to my user directory, music, some album, then i can click the top thing and get the path. I can also see the whole tree on the left.

Whatever I was using in Mint was similar to windows’ Explorer. Had no complaints about it.

People are kind of stupid and lazy, and if there’s no immediate benefit for doing something or punishment for skipping it, they’ll do whatever’s easiest. We’re all like this to some degree, in some contexts or other.

It is a little funny to me that some people just don’t have professional standards. I would make a good faith effort to respond completely to a work email because that’s the job. But I don’t think that’s it for a lot of people.

There’s a lot of ADHD and friends in the world, and a lot of it is untreated. They’re not skipping questions out of malice. They’re probably trying their best. Still failing, but trying. That counts for something.

A lot of people also don’t read well. They won’t likely show up on a texty medium like this, but they’re out there. It may be uncomfortable and embarrassing for them to try to read your email, especially if the level of diction is high and the vocabulary extensive. Most people are emotionally kind of fragile, and won’t put up with that shame for very long. I think that’s why a lot of people want to hop on a call or have a meeting when it could’ve just been an email. They can talk fine, but communicating in written words is harder.

I thought you were exaggerating that he’s 91. Our government has too many ancient farts, maybe.

Depends on how the assassination is done. If it’s a headshot on trump, Vance will likely be president. If someone flies an IED drone into the two of them and they both die in the explosion, that’s different.

I guess most everyone else that works at microsoft is cool with this.

Saint Luigi guide us.

What. What?? Finder is the fucking worst. It doesn’t have a sensible tree view, does it?

I think everywhere I’ve worked has said “we have 20% time for tech debt” but has never actually done that. It’s always “we need to ship this by end of week” and “the CEO wants us to add the thing we said we’d cut so we could make the deadline”.

I’m not sure if you’re implying they’re the same person, as in they won’t ask anyone out and then wonder why nobody goes out with them? Because that I can’t really explain

Yes indeed. There was a guy I was talking to a while ago who said he never got any dates from the apps. I wanted to be helpful, so I asked him to describe his process and what happened.

He said he’d match (good), and then send them a nice personal message (great), they’d chat on the app (good) for a couple weeks (what) and then they’d stop responding.

He never asked them out but he’d keep talking to them, and seemed confused why he wasn’t having dates. I’m not exactly sure why- maybe he was waiting for the perfect moment that never came. I think this is somewhat common because I’ve seen a lot of profiles that say “not looking for a pen pal. Ask me out!”

I told the specific guy I was talking to I recommend asking people out after like one exchange and you’ve cleared your dealbreakers, and I hope that helped him.

my most general advice in that case would be to try to be more open. Nobody wants to pry answers out of you.

This is good advice. A very common blunder I see is people dead-ending conversations. Like someone will be like “oh my gosh I love your spaceslug T-shirt. Did you ever see them play live?” and they respond with “no [end of message]”. Like, what. How is the other person supposed to interpret that?

If it was in person I’d be like “oh ok this person doesn’t want to talk” but on an app, after we matched? Why respond at all? Just unmatch if you’re not interested, or respond later when you can whole-ass the response.

The dating app replaces only the “asking someone out” step, not the actual date itself.

I want to nitpick on this, because I’m told a lot of people use these apps, match, and then never actually ask the other person out. They then are sometimes puzzled why they’re not going on dates.

The only thing online dating changes is that people don’t need to take a rejection straight to their face and get embarrassed into never trying again.

It also helps filter out “oh, she doesn’t date men”, “wow, he’s anti-vax”, “he doesn’t want kids, ever, and i do” kind of stuff. At least, when the app is working and not fully enshittified. That stuff is valuable.

Sorry for the nitpicks. Good post though, thanks.

No one is saying to try to fuck women in public

You are making some wild assumptions about me. At no point did I ever say it was appropriate to engage women who are just living their lives in public. In fact, in the post you’re replying to, I said I agreed with you.

Body language has been a part of humanity since before modern humans existed. You can tell, I hope, the difference between a frown and a smile.

What is how you talk to people?

Also I’m not sure how to square “unless they make it clear they want to be bothered” with your rejection of body language and subtlety.

Those are true statements, but seem to be a whole other topic from what we were talking about. You were rejecting the ideas of body language and subtlety by saying that’s asking for mind reading and childish.

No why the fuck would I talk to random people?

Maybe you should ease up on giving advice and making proclamations on how to talk to random people then

My fellow sapient, do you engage with real people in the world? Your position has merit in a “imagine a frictionless, spherical cow for this physics problem” kind of sense, but is absolutely unrelated to the real world of humanity the entire time we’ve existed, and probably going back to earlier primates as well.

It’s not acting like children. It’s acting like adults. Most adults use subtlety for a variety of reasons. Personal safety and letting someone down gently are just two that come to mind.

You can want everyone to have a standard API with nice json output, but that’s just not how humans are. Expecting it is folly.

I don’t think we can draw conclusions from this without knowing more details about what was in the “good” profile.

If the “good” profile was interesting like “I love extratone and 16th century spanish poetry” I can see why that won’t get hits. People can’t relate to it. But the matches you do get will be starting in a better position.

Remember how you could search for interests? I’m pretty sure you could just like type in “Final Fantasy” or “Speed Chess” and find people who liked it enough to put it on their profile.

Now it’s just a shadow of what it used to be. A crappy tinder knockoff with vestigial profiles.

There are reasons subtlety and body language evolved.

Some men don’t take direct “Not interested. Please leave me alone” well. They’ll call you a [slur, slur] and maybe get violent. But fake laughter and dead-ending the conversation has lead to safer outcomes.

So, yeah, it sucks people can’t be direct and honest, but it’s not just coming out of malice.

Also a lot of the time people don’t really know what they want, or want contradictory things.

They may want someone to approach them, but for whatever reason not you.

I remember in college being mildly devastated when a friend I had a thing for was talking about how she just wanted to meet someone that (superficially) seemed a lot like me, but then was not into me.

Of course, in retrospect I realized I’d done that to couple women without realizing what was happening.