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Cake day: July 20th, 2023

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  • I do know that situation very well since I’m one of those.

    Scoliosis (so constant back pain), and a suspected immunity problem (need more pyl… blood works to be pinpointed) that make me basically sick most of the year (as an example, I’m already at my sixth flu since last September… Fun times 😅).


  • While true in some backwater countries (like the US), that also illustrate the problems with metal health: you mostly cannot measure it.

    A broken bone can be easily seen, a cancer too (in most cases). But how can we measure that your brain fucks up at a fundamental level? Sure we can see some anomalies (hormonal unbalances, parts that are less active than usual, but other thant that…).

    So the standard response in many case is that it is your problem to take care, often with tons of unwelcome “help” (“can you try to be happy”, “try X I saw on tiktok”, or similar “advice”)… If you are lucky.
    I saw a friend loose about all her “friend” once she became depressed. She’s almost homeless these day, living with her family in a motel she barely can afford despite working full time. I help her the best I can (paid for groceries, phone bill, some of the motel nights when she couldn’t), but because of everyone turning on her she blame herself for not being good enough. Which in turn make her depression worse.

    Capitalism made empathy a sin. Anyone not helping paythe shareholder their next yatch is seen as a deadweight only deserving to be left to rot.


  • No, quite the opposite. If sexual pleasure is the only thing going great in a couple, and that the joy of being with each other isn’t enough for someone to put a condom, one should probably reconsider if said relationship is still a loving one.

    I’d prefer an asexual relationship with someone I deeply love to a very gratifying sex life.



  • I seriously can’t understand those who don’t use condoms by default. No contraceptive is 100% foolproof, so using a backup is always a good thing.

    And seriously, if the friction is the only thing that make you enjoy sex, and not with whom you have sex with, you seriously should reconsider your relationship.

    Édit : to clarify, I’m not saying that sexual gratification is a bad thing, just that it shouldn’t be the only mean of gratification.
    Doing it with someone one love is as gratifying as doing if for pure sexual pleasure, if not more, so if having a condom (which some might find uncomfortable) is enough to ruin sex for a guy… Maybe that relationship has more to do with pleasure than genuine love.







  • There are not many cards you need these days, especially not that doesn’t have an USB equivalent. USB capture cards are now decent, same for Wi-Fi+Bluetooth ones (provided you buy one with deported antennas). Other than storage related ones (for moar m.2!, or for sff SAS ports), I don’t see that much uses these days.

    Even my NAS, which uses a micro-ATX MB, only uses one slot on the 3 available. And all its 4 m.2 ports are used (2 for redundant system discs, one for an AI accelerators (for Frigate object detection), the last one being an old SSD used as ZFS cache for my main disk array (will probably be replaced by another AI accelerator once I find another use which would need one).




  • I didn’t even register the change before it got pointed out, my brain automatically translated it to “y” 😂.
    Strange how brain works at time.
    Funny experiment to do, read a sentence in which all word are scrambled, except the first and last letter. You’ll be surprised to realise you still can read it thank to the brain automatically decoding the word from him memory of it.