I read your comment and I feel you. I have a little advice.

First a but about memI “left” reddit for the same reasons. Left is in quotes because I was permanently banned because I argued with a major mod. Specifically I said after they banned me from a sub “ouch ouch ouch, sorry sprained my ankle tripping over 3 identical communities” to which they replied “don’t message me again” and I of course did with a “or what? You’ll silence me? That’s not very intimidating”

Anyway my point is this:

There’s no point in arguing with stupid people… But if you are going to I recommend being dismissive or different. They are prepared for aggression they can’t handle being dismissed. It really messes with bigoted people especially.

An example from my life

Guy at the gas station to me: can you believe the cashier is speaking Spanish? This is America lol

Me: it’s 7 o’clock in the morning. Can you save the racism until after breakfast please.

An example of "different " would be this

I live in Orlando, we have Nazis who protest. I LOVE to walk by and say to a random one “you don’t look good bald. You’re heads too boxy to pull it off”

It fucks with them more than yelling I promise you lol. They aren’t expecting that kind of thing.

What time is it?

That cracked me up lol

I’m not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.

I’m sorry. I can’t offer much but I can give something small. I have suffered from depression a few times in my life and landed on fire to mask it as a protest for whatever.

I didn’t do it obviously it was a very long time ago. 20 years i think and It actually didn’t enter my mind at all when asking this question until I read this comment and remembered my past.

If I ever get that bad again, and I hope I don’t, I promise not to use fire.

Not much but it’s something.

Yeah I grew up on a farm and smelled some pretty bad stuff but it was just a bad smell. If I knew it was human that would be harder even if it smelled mostly the same. It would be psychologically worse.

I know burying a dog that got hit by a car and took a few days to find was worse than finding a missing cow in the same state. I loved the dog, I liked the cows but that dog was my dog. It was worse smell psychologically even tho the cow is bigger and was probably logically more smelly.

And you see I’m quick to accept when I’m wrong.

Plus although I do assume probably too quickly Im quick to ask questions from people who know more.

This I think helps me more than simply not making connections could

That’s good to know. I told another commenter I’m glad to be wrong. I just assumed it would smell like pork because of all the ways pig is used to test things as replacement for human flesh. Being close here doesn’t mean it’s close there. I just assumed and I’m relieved that’s not something people actually have to deal with.

Still obviously a horrible and traumatic thing to deal with but at least it doesn’t ruin Nana’s famous pulled pork. Which is so small and silly compared to dealing with the horrors of a tragedy but… To use a silly example “it sucks I got fired but it would’ve been slightly worse if I got fired and hit my shin on the table while I was being escorted out of the building”. Basically I’m not implying “well then it’s not so bad” just…One small thing I’m glad isn’t part of the problem.

That is a great answer thank you. That was the most horrific part of the question. I’ve never smelled it obviously but I know pirates called it long pork. I’ve heard it described as tasting like pork but only from people who probably were not cannibals. I don’t talk to a lot of cannibals… That I’m aware of anyway. So I only have what I read here and there in articles. I just assumed if humans tasted like pork then we smell like pork.

So I was talking about smells with a friend “bathrooms and air freshener if you’re curious” and my ADHD brain just linked a bunch of useless trivia.

I’m glad to know humans just smell different. It’s probably biological maybe even evolution. Makes sense because in the cave man days anyone who wasn’t disgusted by another dead human enough to run… Probably didn’t survive as long as those that thought “this is something I want to immediately get away from.”

That’s the thing tho nasty and gross I could deal with. I’m no hero like emergency services. I grew up on a farm, raised and processed animals here and there. Stumbled apon missing animals that were long past a pleasant smell. I had a grandmother that was a hoarder, I raised 4 kids…

I’m the one in my family that does the “ewww I just can’t… Please I can’t even talking about it *dry heaves”

My family jokes that I would be the guy in the movie doing an autopsy with his sandwich sitting on the chest of the body.

Now none of that was even close to the mental trauma doctors, police, firefighters face. I also know human decomposition is described as much worse. Id also assume smelling the stuff I’ve smelled from animals probably also hits mentally harder coming from a human. I’m not at all saying “meh I’ve smelled it all”

The point I’m making is terrible smells are bad but seeing something awful and smelling a steak or something good? That seems worse. Like if I drained an abscess in an animal and smelled sugar cookies… I wouldn’t be able to eat sugar cookies anymore. I assume. I don’t really know which is why I’m asking.

But I did read you said a person who died by fire doesn’t smell like steak or food? That’s good to hear. Thats what I was unsettled but curious about.

Do your feet hurt a lot? It sounds like a lot of pressure on a small area

Me too. Unfortunately deep voice also carries. Even my whispers.

I can explain it easily for you… For 14.95 a month.

Paying more than a few cents for coffee Spending more than $3 a day on food

I was being facetious. Well technically it wouldn’t … Doesn’t matter.

What you are saying was exactly my point. It’s a show about bad people doing bad things. It’s a bit silly to be like “they did a bad thing so I stopped watching” because… Well… That’s the show, that’s the point of the show.

Compare that to me saying “I couldn’t get into walking dead because the wife immediately starts sleeping with the best friend after she hears (but doesn’t confirm) the husband is dead”. That might be a personal issue, people could argue I should try to move past that and enjoy the show … However it’s not me missing the point of the entire show. It’s just a personal gripe. That was my point. If I complained “they focus too much on complicated interpersonal dynamics in emergency situations” that would be missing the point of the show. It would still be fine not to like it but changing it would remove the whole point of the show. That’s my gripe with the comment.

Complaining about a detail of the show is fine. Complaining about the entirety of a show is also fine. Complaining about the entire plot of the show like it’s a minor detail is just saying you didn’t understand the show.

My fist experience with peanuts was the school forcing us to watch the special “why charlie Brown, why”

So I’ve always considered it to be kinda of depressing. Also I’m not sure why exactly they needed all students to see that special… Was there alot of leukemia bullying going on back then? Was i supposed to be checking myself for leukemia? What message was I supposed to be taking from that beyond “life kinda sucks sometimes”

No idea. It’s the second most confusing inspirational story we were subjected to at that school.

Edit: off topic but if anyone is curious about the #1 confusing story: Local rich guy on career day. All is kids in the auditorium. He tells us a story about growing up poor but admiring a rich man’s Rolex. He worked and saved for several summers. He bought a Rolex and showed his father. His father smashed it and tossed into the fire. Now he’s rich but never bought another Rolex. No clue what the point was. If you work hard you can achieve your dream? That people will try to smash your dreams? Spend money wisely? Sometimes father’s are dicks? No clue. Someone thought it was important enough to bus all three middle schools over to hear it. Again all I learned was that life can be kinda shitty. I’m nearly 40 now. Never forgot that story, never figured out the point. If you’re out there local small town rich dude… The fuck was the point of that story? What message were you trying to drive home? Over 25 years …always remembered it, never figured it out. What was the idea you were trying to pass on to over 1,000 kids because you certainly didn’t foster change, only a lot of confusion.

I’m afraid I prematurely shot my wad on what was supposed to be a dry run… So to speak. Now I’m left with sort of a mess on my hands.

That reminds me of the time I stopped watching always sunny in Philadelphia because they made fun of a guy with rickets. let’s keep it above the belt comedy shows. No cheap shots.

I totally get that. After pizza hut I worked for 4 months at a dominos franchise with my friend Kayla. The franchise owner would bring his son around sometimes. He was probably around 17-18. To be clear they were rich. Franchise owner of a dominos doesn’t sound like much but he owned like 10 including the one we worked at on international drive in Orlando Florida. It’s like the Vegas strip of Florida.

Anyway his son loved hanging out with Kayla and I because we didn’t give one single shit that he was the owners son. He thought it was wild that i would be a total smartass to his dad…Also Kayla was pretty hot. I’m asexual so we were only just friends but the boy clearly had a crush

Anyway some conversations I remember that shocked his son

His dad: I need the key to the cash drawer Me: it’s my drawer, only mine. I can ring the customer up. Dad: I’m not going to steal from my own business- Me: you’re divorced right? so you understand that mistakes happen even with the best intentions? No. You can’t have my key

Manager meeting at ale house.

Other managers order

Me: I’ll have a double scotch in water and (burger order)

Owners son: can we drink at this meeting?

Me: I can because I’m over 21 lol

Owner: no one can drink. It’s an employee meeting. Waiter cancel the scotch.

Me: I’m sorry Is this a paid meeting?

Owner: no it’s team building

Me: but you’re paying for all of our orders at least?

Owner: no, you aren’t required to order food if you don’t want to. It’s just an option that you can choose.

Me: cool. Since it’s my time and my money I choose to order a double scotch with water.

Kayla: I’ll take a margarita with my order.

Sorry I don’t have any real point I’m making. Just reminiscing. And yes scotch in water is a real drink. It’s not a common drink but it’s been around as long as scotch has. It brings out the more subtle flavors of the scotch.

Off topic but I was a manager of a pizza hut for a while. Drove my district manager nuts with technicalities.

“How many pepperonis go on a large one topping?”

“I look at the chart”

“As a store manager you should have it memorized!”

“As a store manager I have the training manual memorized. It says to look at the chart each and every time you make a pie. It specifically discourages memorizing the portion control. look at the chart every time.”

The answer he wanted was 56 back then btw. 56 pepperoni on a large one topping. I still remember that. The correct answer was “look at the chart” so that was the only answer I gave him.

Another funny story, it was my first food service job. He yelled at me for using the sanitizing cloth from the pizza area on the wing area. Cross contamination, I know that now.

I told him I didn’t know about cross contamination and that it was my first job in food service.

He yelled “I trained you myself”

I replied “yeah … I wasn’t going to mention that but you did train me yourself… Yet here I am not knowing anything about the concept of cross contamination… Maybe more time should be devoted to that in the future”

He did not like me lol

Edit: I had been a retail manager for a few years and got hired on as a store manager for pizza hut. I was vocal that I had zero experience with food. I don’t even cook for myself. I microwave or order food. I know it sounds silly now that I didn’t know anything about cross contamination. I didn’t know, he hired me, he didn’t explain it during training. Call me stupid for not knowing, that’s fine. Hes responsible for making sure I knew, he was my trainer. That’s his fault. I’m still a manger (retail again) and it is very much my job to train my crew properly and never assume something is “common sense”. If it’s important you go over it in training… But I guess I never trained any of my cashiers to not throw poop at customers I just assume that’s common sense… So I guess there’s that flaw in my theory lol