Parents are projecting when they do this. I hold this thing and it brings me such joy, here, you must feel this joy.
Many people without kids who have never held a kid at most feel a little curiosity at the new experience, but don’t feel that mass of endorphins that the parent or previous parent gets when holding a newborn.
Until I had my own, holding someone else’s kid was to appease them, not because it made me overflow with joy.
I have a baby now and I try really hard to make clear to people that if you’d like to hold her you’re welcome to but it’s also totally fine if you don’t want to. Some people are so excited to, others want nothing to do with it. I get it either way
I’ve got a kid and had that nervousness. I remember when we left the hospital, it felt like it was too easy, like “we just made this kid, an actual person, and you’re just letting us leave and take it home with us!? Isn’t that irresponsible??”
Parents are projecting when they do this. I hold this thing and it brings me such joy, here, you must feel this joy.
Many people without kids who have never held a kid at most feel a little curiosity at the new experience, but don’t feel that mass of endorphins that the parent or previous parent gets when holding a newborn.
Until I had my own, holding someone else’s kid was to appease them, not because it made me overflow with joy.
I have a baby now and I try really hard to make clear to people that if you’d like to hold her you’re welcome to but it’s also totally fine if you don’t want to. Some people are so excited to, others want nothing to do with it. I get it either way
I’ve got a kid and had that nervousness. I remember when we left the hospital, it felt like it was too easy, like “we just made this kid, an actual person, and you’re just letting us leave and take it home with us!? Isn’t that irresponsible??”
imposter syndrome with new parents is TOTALLY a thing